She sent this to me. Thought I might enjoy it.... I do, but it kinda hurts, b/c I understand, I know. I'm the "nice guy." I'm fine with that. I hope that she's happy. I do love her, she deserves the best. So all I can say is that, I must keep being who I am, that shoulder, the encourager, the friend that's right there. Don't over interpret, and enjoy my time with her.....
This rant was written for the Wharton Undergraduate Journal
This is a tribute to the nice guys. The nice guys that finish last, that never become more than friends, that endure hours of whining and bitching about what assholes guys are, while disproving the very point. This is dedicated to those guys who always provide a shoulder to lean on but restrain themselves to tentative hugs, those guys who hold open doors and give reassuring pats on the back and sit patiently outside the changing room at department stores. This is in honor of the guys that obligingly reiterate how cute/beautiful/smart/funny/sexy their female friends are at the appropriate moment, because they know most girls need that litany of support. This is in honor of the guys with open minds, with laid-back attitudes, with honest concern. This is in honor of the guys who respect a girl’s every facet, from her privacy to her theology to her clothing style.
This is for the guys who escort their drunk, bewildered female friends back from parties and never take advantage once they’re at her door, for the guys who accompany girls to bars as buffers against the rest of the creepy male population, for the guys who know a girl is fishing for compliments but give them out anyway, for the guys who always play by the rules in a game where the rules favor cheaters, for the guys who are accredited as boyfriend material but somehow don’t end up being boyfriends, for all the nice guys who are overlooked, underestimated, and unappreciated, for all the nice guys who are manipulated, misled, and unjustly abandoned, this is for you.
This is for that time she left 40 urgent messages on your cell phone, and when you called her back, she spent three hours painstakingly dissecting two sentences her boyfriend said to her over dinner. And even though you thought her boyfriend was a chump and a jerk, you assured her that it was all ok and she shouldn’t worry about it. This is for that time she interrupted the best killing spree you’d ever orchestrated in GTA3 to rant about a rumor that romantically linked her and the guy she thinks is the most repulsive person in the world. And even though you thought it was immature and you had nothing against the guy, you paused the game for two hours and helped her concoct a counter-rumor to spread around the floor. This is also for that time she didn’t have a date, so after numerous vows that there was nothing “serious” between the two of you, she dragged you to a party where you knew nobody, the beer was awful, and she flirted shamelessly with you, justifying each fit of reckless teasing by announcing to everyone: “oh, but we’re just friends!” And even though you were invited purely as a symbolic warm body for her ego, you went anyways. Because you’re nice like that.
The nice guys don’t often get credit where credit is due. And perhaps more disturbing, the nice guys don’t seem to get laid as often as they should. And I wish I could logically explain this trend, but I can’t. From what I have observed on campus and what I have learned from talking to friends at other schools and in the workplace, the only conclusion I can form is that many girls are just illogical, manipulative bitches. Many of them claim they just want to date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say irrational, confusing things such as “oh, he’s too nice to date” or “he would be a good boyfriend but he’s not for me” or “he already puts up with so much from me, I couldn’t possibly ask him out!” or the most frustrating of all: “no, it would ruin our friendship.” Yet, they continue to lament the lack of datable men in the world, and they expect their too-nice-to-date male friends to sympathize and apologize for the men that are jerks. Sorry, guys, girls like that are beyond my ability to fathom. I can’t figure out why the connection breaks down between what they say (I want a nice guy!) and what they do (I’m going to sleep with this complete ass now!). But one thing I can do, is say that the nice-guy-finishes-last phenomenon doesn’t last forever. There are definitely many girls who grow out of that train of thought and realize they should be dating the nice guys, not taking them for granted. The tricky part is finding those girls, and even trickier, finding the ones that are single.
So, until those girls are found, I propose a toast to all the nice guys. You know who you are, and I know you’re sick of hearing yourself described as ubiquitously nice. But the truth of the matter is, the world needs your patience in the department store, your holding open of doors, your party escorting services, your propensity to be a sucker for a pretty smile. For all the crazy, inane, absurd things you tolerate, for all the situations where you are the faceless, nameless hero, my accolades, my acknowledgment, and my gratitude go out to you. You do have credibility in this society, and your well deserved vindication is coming.
Fu-zu Jen, SEAS/WH, 2003
Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Wednesday, December 3, 2008
Finals, procrastination
The end of the semester is here. There's not a lot left to do but study. My friends are getting ready to head out. This is there last year here. :) I'm so proud for them, so truly proud that they are almost done. It has been a long, hard-fought, achievement. It's a melancholy and bitter sweet thing. They've been here for 4 years, it's a short time when thinking of it, but living it, it's been forever. I don't know what's going to happen. Of course i have to finish, my double major. But for them, I don't know what's in store. I want, want them to be comfortable in not knowing what's ahead, it's not a requirement that has to be done, it's not something that is looming at them. It's another step that's requiring the same dedication as their school work.
We have to take care of ourselves, each other, our work, and our spirit. We have to be purposeful in finding something to keep us grounded, someone, something to be there to say, "hey, what are you doing," "Why are you doing that," "Do you know what will happen if that is done." I genuinely worry about them, like a parent or a sibling. They are responsible people, but still it's something that I'll worry about. Hahaha We all will be there. I feel loved, when my friends ask me and get on to me if I miss a meal, or if I am considering to skip a class.
But for now, we have to focus on our finals. Get it done, pull the all niter, and achieve the A that we desire so much!!!!
We have to take care of ourselves, each other, our work, and our spirit. We have to be purposeful in finding something to keep us grounded, someone, something to be there to say, "hey, what are you doing," "Why are you doing that," "Do you know what will happen if that is done." I genuinely worry about them, like a parent or a sibling. They are responsible people, but still it's something that I'll worry about. Hahaha We all will be there. I feel loved, when my friends ask me and get on to me if I miss a meal, or if I am considering to skip a class.
But for now, we have to focus on our finals. Get it done, pull the all niter, and achieve the A that we desire so much!!!!
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
Am I Christian...
I really hope so, b/c me believing in Christ is all for not if I'm not. I'm jokingly ask this question; people at school hate Obama being president, say we are doomed, The Christian Nation know as America is gone, we're all going to hell..... REALLY!!! How ignorant can you be.
Let's see, ever since the party system in America has been created there has been a group who believed in a more centralized government, and people who believe in a less centralized government. That means every time someone from the democratic side has always brought hell to the US, nothing but hell. If hell means you have to pay more taxes, means the government helps the people a little more with the taxes that we give. Then yes we are in a hellish nation.
But how on earth is it that you have to be Republican if you're Christian....... wait, wait, what is it that CHrist wanted for the nation of men? Ah yes the Kingdom of God, a kingdom that looks like what? Everyone who's rich, has Mercedes, huge houses, big lawns with people who work it, huge lavish theaters in your homes.... yeah right. Christ wanted the leader to be the lowest person...not compete for being the lowest, but to just be the lowest. Wash feet of the people, serve everyone, help the poor, feed the hungry: WALK HUMBLY. If we had something we gave it away so someone else could have it. It's like the kid that Shaine saw in Calcuda. He gave the child an icecream cone, the kid instead of eating it all, let EVERY KID lick the cone. He gave away to let the others kids try it. That's what Christ wanted.
Christ is a socialist. He wanted things to be shared. His lifestyle is a socialistic one, he loved everyone....even the people who stabbed him, beat him with the cat-of-nine-tails. In the face of death, he told the people he loved them. Thats what Christ and God wants for us, to share the Holy Spirit with everyone. We are to bring the Mana to the People. He doesn't rain Mana down anymore. We are to go out and minister to people, teach, educate, love, to give constructive critisism, to CON-Front issuse TOGETHER (not against each other).
God loves everyone, Christ loves everyone. They may have done wrong, but he loves us. He loves them even if they do go to hell. Love the sinner, not the sin. Aren't we told to do that....so does Christ do that, OF COURSE. Better than we EVER will.
I'm a Christian, American. I am a person who believes in the Kingdom of God, who just so happens lives in the USA. This means I'm to represent my nation, my kingdom well, an Ambassador for GOD. I believe in the nation and am proud of the freedoms that the US believes... BUT I m not a fan of how we go about enforcing, making into law what it does our beliefs, on to other nations. We are not to be a nation that occupies other nations to protect ourselves, to make sure our ideals are met around the world.
If you look at Alexander the Great, and The Roman empire. What all did the they do? They wanted to rule the world. Unify the world and it's nations, so there is a better way of life for all. Alexander had Helenization, all nation knew Greek. Romans wanted their way of life to be spread all over the world. What is the USA doing. Spreading Democracy. Spreading it like it's the correct way to live, the only way to live. If you think so, that's fine, b/c we are all allowed to have our own beliefs. But I think we are now a "bully nation," a nation that want's it way to be done...like a spoiled brat. We have always gotten our way, and the world has catered to us. We were powerful. But now Wallstreet, isn't busy, barely enough work to stay on it. Our super power is gone....not b/c of one side or another, just because of the way it's run now.
Our power seat, throne, is gone...we didn't call "5", or say "seat Check," we can call "Dibs," or anything. It's gone and the rest of the world can grab it. Just like Alexander the Great, Roman Empire, the American Empire has fallen. I'm not saying we want exist, but we'll have to rebuild and think differently. Just like how the German Fatherland, Russian Motherland, had to find a way into a stable, more homeostatic level or existence, the American Homeland will have to find a comfort level and be strong, find pride in our down time. Rely on Christ, and Trust in GOD, b/c He said that things occur b/c he let it, b/c he deemed fit.
I'm sorry if I offended anyone. But I'm glad, if it did, this blog got you thinking. I"m not right. I don't have all the answers. To you I'm the only person who is just spouting opinions. Have a wonderful day. Keep thinking, and processesing ideas.
Let's see, ever since the party system in America has been created there has been a group who believed in a more centralized government, and people who believe in a less centralized government. That means every time someone from the democratic side has always brought hell to the US, nothing but hell. If hell means you have to pay more taxes, means the government helps the people a little more with the taxes that we give. Then yes we are in a hellish nation.
But how on earth is it that you have to be Republican if you're Christian....... wait, wait, what is it that CHrist wanted for the nation of men? Ah yes the Kingdom of God, a kingdom that looks like what? Everyone who's rich, has Mercedes, huge houses, big lawns with people who work it, huge lavish theaters in your homes.... yeah right. Christ wanted the leader to be the lowest person...not compete for being the lowest, but to just be the lowest. Wash feet of the people, serve everyone, help the poor, feed the hungry: WALK HUMBLY. If we had something we gave it away so someone else could have it. It's like the kid that Shaine saw in Calcuda. He gave the child an icecream cone, the kid instead of eating it all, let EVERY KID lick the cone. He gave away to let the others kids try it. That's what Christ wanted.
Christ is a socialist. He wanted things to be shared. His lifestyle is a socialistic one, he loved everyone....even the people who stabbed him, beat him with the cat-of-nine-tails. In the face of death, he told the people he loved them. Thats what Christ and God wants for us, to share the Holy Spirit with everyone. We are to bring the Mana to the People. He doesn't rain Mana down anymore. We are to go out and minister to people, teach, educate, love, to give constructive critisism, to CON-Front issuse TOGETHER (not against each other).
God loves everyone, Christ loves everyone. They may have done wrong, but he loves us. He loves them even if they do go to hell. Love the sinner, not the sin. Aren't we told to do that....so does Christ do that, OF COURSE. Better than we EVER will.
I'm a Christian, American. I am a person who believes in the Kingdom of God, who just so happens lives in the USA. This means I'm to represent my nation, my kingdom well, an Ambassador for GOD. I believe in the nation and am proud of the freedoms that the US believes... BUT I m not a fan of how we go about enforcing, making into law what it does our beliefs, on to other nations. We are not to be a nation that occupies other nations to protect ourselves, to make sure our ideals are met around the world.
If you look at Alexander the Great, and The Roman empire. What all did the they do? They wanted to rule the world. Unify the world and it's nations, so there is a better way of life for all. Alexander had Helenization, all nation knew Greek. Romans wanted their way of life to be spread all over the world. What is the USA doing. Spreading Democracy. Spreading it like it's the correct way to live, the only way to live. If you think so, that's fine, b/c we are all allowed to have our own beliefs. But I think we are now a "bully nation," a nation that want's it way to be done...like a spoiled brat. We have always gotten our way, and the world has catered to us. We were powerful. But now Wallstreet, isn't busy, barely enough work to stay on it. Our super power is gone....not b/c of one side or another, just because of the way it's run now.
Our power seat, throne, is gone...we didn't call "5", or say "seat Check," we can call "Dibs," or anything. It's gone and the rest of the world can grab it. Just like Alexander the Great, Roman Empire, the American Empire has fallen. I'm not saying we want exist, but we'll have to rebuild and think differently. Just like how the German Fatherland, Russian Motherland, had to find a way into a stable, more homeostatic level or existence, the American Homeland will have to find a comfort level and be strong, find pride in our down time. Rely on Christ, and Trust in GOD, b/c He said that things occur b/c he let it, b/c he deemed fit.
I'm sorry if I offended anyone. But I'm glad, if it did, this blog got you thinking. I"m not right. I don't have all the answers. To you I'm the only person who is just spouting opinions. Have a wonderful day. Keep thinking, and processesing ideas.
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
Love...which type? How to express it.
It's odd. This past break I could stop thinking about her again. I don't want to think of her as if I could date her, b/c I can't. She's into another guy, and really wants it to work out well. I can't do much to help her with it, b/c it's all on her own dime. I'm not going to lie, but I do love her. I care for her and want her relationship to blossom, but these past 4 days my mind has been entertaining the idea of loving her as if I could hold her, her hand and we would be happy together. ha that boat has sailed. :) I have no idea what to do. I know that before I wanted to let her know that I do love her, the love that a friend would have for her. I didn't, I don't know why.
She's a wondeful friend. I'm there for her when she needs me. But lately there isn't anythign there, like everything is ok to a degree that we don't need to talk or walk. I'll need to go on a walk with her or some coffee, just so we can hang out. I perfer one-on-one time, that's how I relate with people. it's difficult but I feel unrushed. i do feel weird b/c it's hard to talk about something. With her though, we can sit and wait for something to be said. I feel fine. I don't have to say something. So i know that i want to walk or go get coffee. Step one, step two just let the conversation be as it is....but do I let her know that I do love her. Oh or do I just say it one day. Do I jsut say I Love You? I have no idea. I'm thinking too much, and this blog is begining to seem like crap.....uggghhh!!!! I'm off to bed b/c I have a test to do.
She's a wondeful friend. I'm there for her when she needs me. But lately there isn't anythign there, like everything is ok to a degree that we don't need to talk or walk. I'll need to go on a walk with her or some coffee, just so we can hang out. I perfer one-on-one time, that's how I relate with people. it's difficult but I feel unrushed. i do feel weird b/c it's hard to talk about something. With her though, we can sit and wait for something to be said. I feel fine. I don't have to say something. So i know that i want to walk or go get coffee. Step one, step two just let the conversation be as it is....but do I let her know that I do love her. Oh or do I just say it one day. Do I jsut say I Love You? I have no idea. I'm thinking too much, and this blog is begining to seem like crap.....uggghhh!!!! I'm off to bed b/c I have a test to do.
Wednesday, October 15, 2008
life 2.3....WooOOoOoooOooOOO
Half way through my senior year of college. To be honest this semester seems so fake. I've been stressed with the fist 3 years of college from day one. This semester is the most easily doable semester ever. I feel like it shouldn't exist. I can be with my friends, study, do some work for money. Right now the thing that plagues me is my trucks issues, and my laundry. It feels like such a joke at times.
But it's my rest; I miss ATEP so much. I only hope that I'll be able to get back to it, and be able to be a useful person in the work force and honestly...volunteer to help people, help them to live longer, affect people, open others' eyes, and help to change their community, city, county, state, region, time zone, country, hemisphere, and finally world.....baby steps....
Baby steps is what's needed to make anything happen; lose weight, change habits, change a life style. There is SO much to fix, to make better, to change...even if it's not "broken," it's not right. I don't want to be the person who says something and doesn't do it (communication is important....I need to do that too.) I need to make some steps towards a healthier life. I need to act on a better eating style.
The other thing that I'm having to work is being able keep relationships that i have with my friends. I need to listen more, "no words, just emotions,"~ ST hahaha I've been doing well at it. I guess I need to understand that I really don't know everything. Life is difficult and there are trials that might suck really bad, that's all I got for now.
I was the DD a few nights ago, and it was a lot of fun. DDing is something that I really enjoy. You get to see how people are, in a slight primordial state. Some are freaking retarded when they speak, some are cognitive and just talkative, and others are just the stereotypical loving person. We went to a pretty cool place. It was packed, and a bit wild. But it was an experience that I haven't had in a while. HAHAHA I'm glad I don't drink, people do get pissed, upset, short-tempered, and different. I'm not condemning the people who drink or get drunk, but it's not something that I want to be apart of.
Like i had said earlier, it's so close to the end of college. I would love to graduate with my friends, but that's probably not going to happen. ST had said before that friends can be like seasons, here and gone. There is a certain place for them in our lives. But what I hope is that they don't leave my life. I love them all so very much and honestly hope that we can stay in contact. ST hopefully will be someone who can call me when ever, and I can call her. Chris and Kev are just as important.
Well for now I'm at work, it's 8 in the morning. I'm getting an hour for a friend who really wanted the rest. There is so much more but my mind is beginning to become flooded with thoughts. :) Sometimes I wonder if I should be a psych major, but I would probably think I have answers too. lol Thank you for listening/reading, be safe.
But it's my rest; I miss ATEP so much. I only hope that I'll be able to get back to it, and be able to be a useful person in the work force and honestly...volunteer to help people, help them to live longer, affect people, open others' eyes, and help to change their community, city, county, state, region, time zone, country, hemisphere, and finally world.....baby steps....
Baby steps is what's needed to make anything happen; lose weight, change habits, change a life style. There is SO much to fix, to make better, to change...even if it's not "broken," it's not right. I don't want to be the person who says something and doesn't do it (communication is important....I need to do that too.) I need to make some steps towards a healthier life. I need to act on a better eating style.
The other thing that I'm having to work is being able keep relationships that i have with my friends. I need to listen more, "no words, just emotions,"~ ST hahaha I've been doing well at it. I guess I need to understand that I really don't know everything. Life is difficult and there are trials that might suck really bad, that's all I got for now.
I was the DD a few nights ago, and it was a lot of fun. DDing is something that I really enjoy. You get to see how people are, in a slight primordial state. Some are freaking retarded when they speak, some are cognitive and just talkative, and others are just the stereotypical loving person. We went to a pretty cool place. It was packed, and a bit wild. But it was an experience that I haven't had in a while. HAHAHA I'm glad I don't drink, people do get pissed, upset, short-tempered, and different. I'm not condemning the people who drink or get drunk, but it's not something that I want to be apart of.
Like i had said earlier, it's so close to the end of college. I would love to graduate with my friends, but that's probably not going to happen. ST had said before that friends can be like seasons, here and gone. There is a certain place for them in our lives. But what I hope is that they don't leave my life. I love them all so very much and honestly hope that we can stay in contact. ST hopefully will be someone who can call me when ever, and I can call her. Chris and Kev are just as important.
Well for now I'm at work, it's 8 in the morning. I'm getting an hour for a friend who really wanted the rest. There is so much more but my mind is beginning to become flooded with thoughts. :) Sometimes I wonder if I should be a psych major, but I would probably think I have answers too. lol Thank you for listening/reading, be safe.
Thursday, October 9, 2008
why cna't I add a picture....grr more frustration
Half way through my senior year of college. To be honest this semester seems so fake. I've been stressed with the fist 3 years of college from day one. This semester is the most easily doable semester ever. I feel like it shouldn't exist. I can be with my friends, study, do some work for money. Right now the thing that plagues me is my trucks issues, and my laundry. It feels like such a joke at times.
But it's my rest; I miss ATEP so much. I only hope that I'll be able to get back to it, and be able to be a useful person in the work force and honestly...volunteer to help people, help them to live longer, affect people, open others' eyes, and help to change their community, city, county, state, region, time zone, country, hemisphere, and finally world.....baby steps....
Baby steps is what's needed to make anything happen; lose weight, change habits, change a life style. There is SO much to fix, to make better, to change...even if it's not "broken," it's not right. I don't want to be the person who says something and doesn't do it (communication is important....I need to do that too.) I need to make some steps towards a healthier life. I need to act on a better eating style.
The other thing that I'm having to work is being able keep relationships that i have with my friends. I need to listen more, "no words, just emotions,"~ Sloane hahaha I've been doing well at it. I guess I need to understand that I really don't know everything. Life is difficult and there are trials that might suck really bad, that's all I got for now.
But it's my rest; I miss ATEP so much. I only hope that I'll be able to get back to it, and be able to be a useful person in the work force and honestly...volunteer to help people, help them to live longer, affect people, open others' eyes, and help to change their community, city, county, state, region, time zone, country, hemisphere, and finally world.....baby steps....
Baby steps is what's needed to make anything happen; lose weight, change habits, change a life style. There is SO much to fix, to make better, to change...even if it's not "broken," it's not right. I don't want to be the person who says something and doesn't do it (communication is important....I need to do that too.) I need to make some steps towards a healthier life. I need to act on a better eating style.
The other thing that I'm having to work is being able keep relationships that i have with my friends. I need to listen more, "no words, just emotions,"~ Sloane hahaha I've been doing well at it. I guess I need to understand that I really don't know everything. Life is difficult and there are trials that might suck really bad, that's all I got for now.
Wednesday, September 17, 2008
::sigh::
I was so close to telling her. But then i had to screw the whole thing up with one little act. She doesn't know about it or how I feel. It's fruitless for me to tell her. I think so.... I feel so defeated. They're embarrassed and watching the stars. I'm picking up an application for someone. She's happy. That's a good thing. That's what makes me feel glad....but honestly I feel so broken. It's funny b/c I feel like a duck, calm on the surface, but working so hard underneath the water.
So tomorrow, will be another day. A chapel, a class, and an end of the week. A weekend. Homework, in the PCSU, and bed at 1. A comfortable day, found in content. Nothing different, exciting, or great. Except for my best friend. My favorite person to talk to, to listen to, to wonder things with. :) I'm glad you're happy now, you haven't told me yet, but I can pull things from vagueness, from you and others. This makes me happy. Work hard for it, and endure. I love you. I really do love you. I've never felt more sure. This is what I wanted to say, this is what I hoped to say....I might still, but my hoping for anything more has been shot.
Have a most wonderful evening. Sleep well, with a smile, warmth in your heart, and calm in your self. I hope tomorrow will be good to you. You deserve it, and fun.
Good Night! Take Care :)
So tomorrow, will be another day. A chapel, a class, and an end of the week. A weekend. Homework, in the PCSU, and bed at 1. A comfortable day, found in content. Nothing different, exciting, or great. Except for my best friend. My favorite person to talk to, to listen to, to wonder things with. :) I'm glad you're happy now, you haven't told me yet, but I can pull things from vagueness, from you and others. This makes me happy. Work hard for it, and endure. I love you. I really do love you. I've never felt more sure. This is what I wanted to say, this is what I hoped to say....I might still, but my hoping for anything more has been shot.
Have a most wonderful evening. Sleep well, with a smile, warmth in your heart, and calm in your self. I hope tomorrow will be good to you. You deserve it, and fun.
Good Night! Take Care :)
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